Let’s get a little personal

Let’s Get a Little Personal


This post is a little personal.

Today, I am sharing about my dad’s journey with selling his house. How he came to live with my family, what brought him to the decision to sell his house in California, and what having a multi generation household looks like for us.

See! It’s a little personal! But I’m not all business… so here goes.

How my dad came to live with my family

In 2016 my dad’s wife passed away. After 23 years of marriage, 7 kids and 10 grandchildren, a child’s death, and beating a typically fatal illness together, my step mom went home. Her being gone left my dad heartbroken, which led to some difficult circumstances and decisions. They were best friends and overcame a lot together.

Why he chose to sell

On December 27th of 2017, my dad fell and hit his head on the concrete so hard that he had 7 brain bleeds. After months of praying and treatment, he eventually woke up. He was getting stronger every day and it seemed best for him to leave the hospital and move in with one of us kids, so I flew down to Sacramento and drove him back to Washington! I had flown down 12 times in a 5 month period so I was glad to start finding some stability again.

After a few months of healing, he decided to go back to down to his house in California and spend some time. While he was there, he realized that it was time to sell the house and find a new adventure.

Our new normal

When he arrived back in Washington and let me know that his house was for sale, the reality hit me hard. I reviewed his listing contract and helped him sort through the different phases of a real estate transaction. This past week was so serious. We flew down to his house on Tuesday, and within 5 days we cleared out the accumulation of 5 generations. We are so grateful to friends and family for helping out! Needless to say, it was emotionally and physically exhausting.

The house just closed yesterday, and we are finalizing the paperwork and figuring out what it looks like to live together as 3 generations under 1 roof. Truth be told, he is a great house guest. He and I did not have much of a relationship while I was growing up so we are getting to know each other in a unique way.

Takeaway

2018 has been a difficult year. I have been stretched and wrung out more than I have ever experienced before. Family is a strange thing – we all view it differently and the titles of the different people in our life can stir up all sorts of different emotions and memories. My personal and professional skills have been tried every step of the way this year and I can honestly say my compassion and humility have grown far greater than it ever could have without the trials we have gone through.  Maybe that’s the “take joy” part of Romans 5.

It seems like life is just that way – trials WILL come. Situations WILL go wrong. But how we react to those realities is what refines us.  I heard this phrase and just love it:

When you squeeze an orange, you get orange juice

When you squeeze a lemon, you get lemon juice

And when you squeeze a human – whatever is stored up inside comes out.

 

This life will never be perfect. We are guaranteed to have valleys and mountains… but the choices we make every day are what make up the stuff that comes out when we are under pressure & being squeezed.

My goal is for compassion and truth to come out when I’m squeezed. I have a LOOOONNNNGGG way to go, but I’m closer every day. What comes out when you’re under pressure and are required to perform?

Renovate vs. Move

Should I Renovate or Move?

 

I know what you’re thinking: I've been asking myself this question for months!! This time of year gets us all thinking about if our current space fits our current needs. I'm going to guide you through the myths, best practices, and help you nail down your next steps. You ready?

The Real Question:

Have you considered adding a room, or maybe changing your floor plan? Maybe you’re in need of a downsize because your property is just to much for you to maintain. It’s not easy to decide whether you should remodel or if it makes more sense to move…. but if you’re feeling stuck on this question, you should probably re-frame it. Here is what you should actually be asking:

“Does this property fit my current needs?”

Taking the time to renovate might fix the problem, but finding a property that already suits your needs could be more financially responsible. You and I both know that the only real way to get the best ROI (return on investment) is to know the numbers. 

Common Myths

Renovation Myth: Sticking to the budget will keep the project cost effective

McKenzie says to Casey "If we plan everything out beforehand, we can stay in budget!"

I am all about a good plan and budget! But any time you do a renovation, you quickly find out that there are always unexpected items. The problems happen when allocate $10 per square foot for tile, but fall in love with tile that's $25 per sq ft. Or you allow for $10,000 worth of appliances, but later Costco has the beautiful, higher end appliances right now. Or opening up that wall to make an open living space to find the support beam is rotten and your priorities change.

Selling Myth: I can list my house and just see what happens

Signing a listing agreement means that you have decided to sell your property. Being wishy washy about what your plan is could cost you hours of frustration and discouragement and your real estate agent hundreds of dollars.  Making an educated, informed decision is the best place to start. 

 

Best Practices

Ask yourself the hard questions. No one knows your needs better than you do. Putting pen to paper will help you clarify what really matters to you. Make sure you fully understand the pros & cons of both options.

To Do:

  • Write down you top 5 needs and wants of a property, in order of priority.
  • Create a detailed list of what would need to be done to make your existing place fit those top 5.
  • Get at least 3 bids per renovation project.
  • Speak with a professional and get a current market analysis to see how much equity you have.  
  • Compare monetary and emotional expense for selling vs renovating.

Click here to download your FREE Top 5 Needs & Wants guide.

Next steps!

Take the pressure off of selling vs. renovating debate. Instead,  refer back to the real question: “Does this house and property fit my current needs?” If the answer is no (you probably wouldn't be this far down if the answer was clear to you), then what are you going to do about it? I challenge you to honestly answers these questions, and fill out the Top 5 sheet …because after all, you have to live here every day! And it should be servicing your needs.

The Ultimate Seller's Checklist

Learn what buyers are looking for. This checklist will help you:

✓ Reduce the risk of inspection surprises

✓ Save Time by knowing what matters

✓ Increase market appeal

✓ Avoid mistakes by working with an expert

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Holiday Joy

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The Holiday’s are such a loaded time of year. Our “To Do” list and priorities for the 4th quarter of every year add so much pressure to perform that it makes the Holidays extra emotionally confusing. While some of us are trying to lay aside our hoarder tendencies, others show love through gift giving. While some are warm and cozy at home, others are struggling just to put a roof over their head. Learning to balance it all can almost feel like learning to walk a tight rope… which would look like a joke for most of us. 

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