5 Reminders to Find Joy in the Holiday Craziness
Thanksgiving has just wrapped up, and I am looking at the calendar between now and the end of the year, and--wow. There is so much going on! It’s hard to admit, but finding joy in the holidays can be hard.
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All of end-of year tasks, celebrations and expectations can add so much pressure to our daily lives.
On top of the general busyness, there is also all of the emotional juggling that comes with this season. Complicated family relationships, missing loved ones we’ve lost, or learning to navigate how to be joyful when someone we care for is struggling...it can all seem like a lot, and it can start to suck away at our own joy.
So what do we do to ensure that this season of joy doesn’t become a season of stress, sadness, or tension?
Here are 5 things I try to remind myself about during the holiday season:
1. Every family member matters.
That includes you! What do YOU need this holiday season to stay sane and cheery? Speak up and share with your loved ones. They probably have the same goal of Joy for the holidays, but if you don’t communicate your needs, how will they know?
2. It’s about your presence, not the presents.
Gift giving is definitely one of my love languages, but I would never want someone to go into debt or stress about buying something. Time is our greatest commodity so being present for your loved ones is gift enough!
3. Communicate needs, expectations, and extend grace.
My husband, Josh, and I were raised very differently. When we first got married we saw just how differently we viewed Stuff, Money, and Time management. Over the years we have learned to communicate our needs and wants with each other, and we get more in sync every year. However, it has taken a LOT of grace on both our parts to find our middle ground. Extend grace to those around you this Holiday season. You’ll probably need to be given grace at some point so pay it forward friend.
My family’s holiday journey has evolved so much over the years, and just when we feel confident and grounded in our traditions, the ground shifts again and we need to readjust. Such is life. Communication and Grace are how we move through these readjustment periods, holidays or not.
4. Leave White Space in your schedule.
Give yourself some space to breathe during this busy season. Learn how to decline events or activities. Schedule time for your priorities, so they actually happen. White Space--or time when nothing is scheduled--should absolutely be one of those priorities. Otherwise every second will be filled; that has proven to be very unhealthy for our family, so I now make it a point to block off times on our family calendar where we are “busy” being not busy. Make no apologies for doing this.
5. Serve a stranger or neighbor.
This ties into the gift of time idea in #2. This time of year can be really hard for some people, so keep an eye out for a need, and fulfill it with no expectation of reciprocation. You may find more joy than you would expect.
Coming up with a game plan for our holidays has been instrumental in cultivating joy filled holidays for our family. As you work through the remainder of this season, remember that as long as people are involved there will always be punches to dodge, areas to be flexible, and soap boxes worth standing on. I think the key to keeping our joy is having the wisdom to know when to do what.
If you are looking for more resources on achieving a peaceful holiday season, I would highly suggest checking out Learn, Do, Becomes FREE Holiday Workshop. They have some amazing tools.
Please tell me I’m not alone! What are some steps you take during the holidays to cultivate joy?
All the best!